Sex therapy is recommended when the individual, one partner or both partners find that their sexual relations are unsatisfactory because of a specific dysfunction or because, in general, they feel dissatisfaction or discomfort.

It is convenient to understand sex therapy as a tool that is able to enhance sexuality, pleasure, emotions, communication... And even our self-esteem and social skills.

What do you need to know about sex therapy?

Sometimes talking about sex can be uncomfortable, but that's what our specialists are there for. They will make you feel confident so that you can talk about your case with peace of mind.

To begin with, sex therapy has an assessment process in which the therapist determines the guidelines to follow. At this point, you can talk in as much depth as you need to, as these issues can be complex and we often don't fully understand what is going on.

What does sex therapy address?

Sex therapy consists of a set of therapeutic strategies and techniques. The aim is to solve problems that the person may have related to their sexuality. The aim is for the person to enjoy a high level of general well-being, both during and outside of sexual relations.

Many aspects of a person's life are often addressed. Topics such as one's own and partner's sexuality, beliefs about sex, sex education, trauma, work and one's current context.

Once therapy is over, you will have the tools to express yourself more freely and clearly, you will understand your sexual needs more easily and, at the same time, you will have an easier time identifying your partner's needs in order to achieve sexual fulfilment.

Should I go alone or with my partner?

Depending on the problem or the type of case, you can go alone or with your partner. It is not always necessary for both partners to come to therapy. In many cases, despite the fact that the problem is experienced as a couple, the person wants to deal with a personal problem or difficulty.

- Individual sex therapy: Generally, the person who requests individual sex therapy does so because they think or feel that their sexual dissatisfaction is due to a personal difficulty.

- Couples Sex Therapy: The couple requests this form of couple's sex therapy when they consider that they are both suffering from a sexual problem. In this way, both partners work together in a session. Aspects that have to do with sexual relations are dealt with and, if necessary, other factors of the couple's relationship are also considered, such as affection, communication, trust, infidelity, etc.

Is sex therapy exclusively for individuals or couples with sexual dysfunction?

Sex Therapy is not only for individuals or couples with sexual dysfunction. It can also benefit all those who:

• They want improve their quality of sexual life despite not having a specific problem.
• Want or need to complete their sexual educationor simply want to make a specific consultation.
• They do not enjoy their sexual life to the full for reasons other than sexual dysfunction: problems of sexual self-esteem, sexual or emotional trauma, difficulties in relating to others, relationship problems, etc.

 When to go to sex therapy?

The most common reasons for seeking sex therapy are:

• Lack of sexual desire.
• Erectile dysfunction (difficulty in getting or maintaining an erection)
• Premature ejaculation in men.
• Delayed ejaculation in men.
• Difficulty in having an orgasm.
• Anorgasmia.
• Pain during sexual intercourse or inability to have penetrative sex.
• Fear or aversion to sex.
• Sexual assaults or abuse.
• Lack of sexual skills.
• Sexual disinterest or problems arising from the monotony of the couple.
• Sex addiction.
• Paraphilias.

It is important to mention that it is not essential to have serious problems in order to attend this type of therapy, as sex therapy can also be useful to deal with other issues related to sexuality.

Does leaning on a therapist mean that my relationship is over?

The answer is no. Time and again, we encounter patients who associate help with relationship failure. However, the opposite is true.

The moment we set our intention to try to solve a problem or crisis we are already starting with the treatment. Thanks to our professionals we can quickly identify the possible factors that threaten our relationship and even identify if there is a non-psychological cause (urological or gynaecological problems). We work in an interdisciplinary way with our medical team to obtain the best results. 

Each couple is unique and our professionals always individualise each case with its values and peculiarities without passing any kind of value judgement. We focus on identifying which values within each couple are the most positive in order to strengthen it and, at the same time, we try to discard those that could affect it. 

During therapy, the therapist proposes a series of exercises, guidelines, or negotiations to both partners and/or separately to carry out at home. Our aim is to promote a state of tranquillity, communication, trust, harmony and well-being in the different areas of their relationship.